How do you stay connected to yourself while navigating motherhood, and what helps you hold onto your sense of identity in this season of life?
I have made sure, with hindsight of course, to be intentional about carving out time for myself now as a mum to two. I make time for walks, having a seated coffee out, and going out for dinner with my husband. Sometimes it takes a bit of juggling or sacrifice, but it’s something I enjoy. I’ve also been really lucky to have amazing mum friends and helpful parents who support that, offering to help, hold space, and step in when needed.
What part of motherhood do you feel is often unseen or unspoken, but deeply meaningful to you?
I think one of the most unseen parts of motherhood is the mental load that comes with it. You’re constantly thinking about sleep, feeding, routines, meals, what needs to be done, what’s coming up. It’s everything from packing lunchboxes to remembering birthdays and making sure your kids have the right clothes for each season. It doesn’t really switch off, even when you get a moment to yourself.
It’s such a big part of being a mum, and I find you really level up as a person. Things that used to feel stressful don't carry the same weight anymore, and your ability to manage and multitask grows in a way that carries into every part of life. It's this constant that often goes unnoticed.
What is something your children have taught you about yourself?
My children have taught me that I have the patience of a saint! But in all seriousness, they’ve actually taught me how to be a mum. There’s no rule book for parenting, you really learn through them, and they bring out a level of patience and compassion you didn’t even know you had.
